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Strengthen your serenity muscle

· meditation,live in the flow,calm

My serenity muscle is the place where I don't react from anxiety, frustration, fear or anger. It doesn't mean I don't feel these emotions, but I understand why I am feeling those emotions. I am able to surrender to feeling them, so I come back into centre. It's the place where I feel like everything is going my way (even my unruly hair). Some might call this resilience, balance, centre, inner calm and any other name that seems suitable. But we all know where it is and can feel when we are there.

Two years ago I found myself feeling like I couldn't get back into centre. It was this elusive place I knew existed, but it was a reserved for other people. Then a friend said, let's do 40 days of meditation, just 10 minutes a day. I have done meditation on and off for years, so it wasn't frightening, but I had never found true bliss, like others had. It was just a nice thing to do, occasionally. But I knew I needed to do something and even I could do 10 minutes a day! So we did 40 days. I felt calmer. I could see glimmers of myself again. And then I decided to do another 40 days. And then I started to want to meditate. I started to play around with different techniques that would help me combat my emotions, understand them and be able to shift them. I didn't want to go back to that place again. I was finally awake and enjoying life again.

The three things to build your serenity muscle:

1. Tune in. This was a BIG change for me, when I started to tune into my body. To notice my emotions and where they were sitting in my body, instead of ignoring them. I was then able to recognise when I was heading to overwhelm. What was my body telling me. For me, it's a clenched jaw and shallow breathing that is my body screaming at me that I need to pay attention. It's different for everyone, for you it might be tight shoulders, a sinking feeling in your stomach, clenched hands. Whatever it is, the sooner you notice, the sooner you can do something about it.

2. Build your serenity muscle. I do this with my 10 minutes meditation a day. I started by doing 5 days a week and if I couldn't do 10 minutes, then I would do 2. Whatever I could so it became a habit. I now meditate most days, but that is because I want to. I recommend using an app with a timer and some calming sounds of music. Tune into any emotions in your body for a couple of seconds (this helps you with 1) and then breathe. I learnt a technique which helps me focus. Breath in through your nose, notice where the breath touches the nostril. Breath out through the mouth if you can (tongue resting on the roof of the mouth), but if you can't breath out your nose. Just focus on the breath. Coming back to it when your mind wanders (the more you practice, the longer you can focus without it wandering for as long). Or try a guided meditation. There are some great apps and some good meditations on you tube.

3. In the moment. Find tools that you can use in the moment. Life happens and we get thrown off centre. One of my tools is as simple as three deeps breaths. It is one of the most powerful tools I use, especially when I notice I'm shallow breathing. I can then function again and tap into what my body is telling me later. I'll be sharing more tools on here and my social media.

 

Join my for a meditation class on 3 or 17 May in Rudolph Steiner House, near Baker st tube.

3. In the moment. Find tools that you can use in the moment. Life happens and we get thrown off centre. One of my tools is as simple as three deeps breaths. It is one of the most powerful tools I use, especially when I notice I'm shallow breathing. I can then function again and tap into what my body is telling me later. I'll be sharing more tools on here and my social media.

Join my for a meditation class on 3 or 17 May in Rudolph Steiner House, near Baker st tube.

Note: the app I use as a timer with great background music is calm.

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